After a Dramatic Breakup- Behavior to Avoid.

While it is a natural thing to want to know what your ex is doing after breaking up it can still be heart breaking because as all you want to do is call them to try to talk to them, but you don’t want to go too far to the point that you may think that you are threatening or stalking. Nor do you want to plead and beg for their love as this will only make things worse in their eyes , The following are examples of behavior to avoid after a dramatic breakup.

Repeated phone calls

This is easy to do, you call up and have a chat with them, that is not agreeable and you end up hanging up on them , you then call back to say sorry or to clarify something because you feel bad and they do not answer the phone so you hang up , then you decide to leave a message because it is bugging you that you have not spoken to them , then on leaving the message you wait for them to phone you back , but when they don’t return your call , you decide to call them again , This is an example of repeated calling and can be deemed as harassing if your ex calls the police .

Therefore this is one of the most horrendous things that you can do when you are trying to get back at your ex, in the heat of the moment when emotions are running high; it is easy to fall into this trap. Avoid it at all costs.

Driving past their house

This is like afflicting yourself to some kind of mental torture, so why do this to yourself? if you see their car there you will be wondering what they are up to and even more so if you were to see a strangers car there , you will be wondering whether they have a date , and of course if you see no car, you will be wondering where they are . Stop wasting your gas mileage and your time by driving back and forth past their house , it not only the time wasting but if they see you do this , they will not feel flattered but threatened by this behavior of yours even though your dramatic breakup has caused you to act in this way .


Calling family members

Calling or emailing their family members or close friends and trying to get them to intervene on your behalf or even using them for a sounding out board to tell them what an awful person your ex is in the effort to get their attention is a bad suggestion , if you want to tell your ex off , do it to their face and not use their relatives or close friends as mentors, because if you care about your ex at all , you will not even think about putting their relatives or close friends into that awkward position of trying to relay information from you to your ex

The consequences of that will be that either no one will want to get involved, your ex will get mad at you for the attempt of trying to get to them by involving their friends and you will lessen the chances of the two of you ever getting back together .

Sending gifts or flowers

Men are more likely to do this than women , no amount of flowers or gifts is going to bring your ex back to you unless they are ready to come back to you , so on that note save your money and your time and stop sending flowers or gifts in a effort to win them back .

Cyber stalking

Do not even start to Google your ex and showing up on their new Facebook or MySpace. Do not follow them onto dating sites Pretending to be someone else , For that reason this is a total waste of time and will yet again lessen any chances of rekindling your relationship , allow your ex to be your ex , the best way forward is to take them off your Facebook page as a friend so that you both can move on .

Threaten Suicide

This can not help at all, all it will probably do is land you up in hospital instead of back in the arms of your ex, and for that fact is it really the right way about getting someone back into your life? If you do have suicidal thoughts because of your ex you need to get help. Go to your doctor or hospital to ask for their help but if they are just thoughts then you should not use this as a tool to get back with your ex as this never works even after any dramatic breakup .

Go out with their friends for spite

Leave their friends alone , as going out on a date with their friends etc is not a way of getting them back and it is not fair on the innocent party that you are trying to date, not a very bright way of getting your ex back as jealousy never works like that .

Rush back to them if they call

If, for some reason your ex does call you, then do not rush back to call them, play it cool, in some cases the ex will want to gratify their ego and calls to see if you are still pinning for them, for this reason do not fall into this trap, call them back in your time see what they want and play it cool. If they do want to meet up ,then don’t rush into it straight away as they may just want to string you along .

So when you have any dramatic breakup it is best to avoid any unnecessary behavior that is going to cause and upset or hurt to any party involved .